For years we have tried new forms of communications, there are countless languages out there to learn and none of that is including our body language, tone, cultural influences. COMMUNICATION is one of the most complicated things you will learn to do. Even if you speak the same language as someone, live with them for years...you are still bound to has some form of MIS-COMMUNICATION.
So 1st thing to LEARN for your marriage (or any relationship you have) there WILL be a time you mis-communicate something to someone.
If you go back to my post on Marriage Tip #6, I gave an example of how Alex and I had different definitions in our heads of what "SAVINGS" is causing us to mis-understand each other.
#2, is know Communication takes time, patiences and TALKING. You CANNOT stop talking to each other or you'll never learn how each other's minds work. This helps you learn how to talk to each other.
#3 the more you talk, the more you know.
So don't be completely discouraged when this happens. Don't start thinking "He/She doesn't get me!" My Parents are celebrating their 34th Wedding Anniversary December 23rd and they still have moments of Miscommunication. But they know it happens, they work through it, learn something about each other/themselves and move on. They are more in love today then yesterday!
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